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Of Roses and Rice Balls

This year, a traditional Chinese family gathering coincided with Western import Valentine's. Which won?

Due to a coincidence of the lunar and solar calendars, Lantern Festival, the last day of China's 15-day-long Lunar New Year celebration, fell on Feb. 14th -- Valentine's Day. One user of Sina Weibo, China's Twitter, joked he would mediate the tension by "selling glutinous rice in the morning, roses at lunch time, and condoms at night."

The clash of the thoroughly traditional, family-focused Lantern Festival with a private, commercial, and increasingly popular Western holiday sparked a conflict of allegiance among many young Chinese this year. The contrast between the two holidays garnered widespread attention on Weibo, where the hashtag #lanternfestivalvalentinesday# generated 69 million posts. One popular comment compared the dilemma to an age-old Chinese rivalry between filial piety and love: "It's the same as asking the question: If your mom and your wife are both drowning, who would you save first?"

The now-concluded Lantern Festival, where families light red lanterns and, traditionally, allow children to carry them to the temple at night, was celebrated as far back as 104 B.C. In its modern day incarnation, relatives gather to eat sweet glutinous rice balls; the roundness of the dough symbolizes the wholeness of the family. By contrast, the Chinese celebrate the imported holiday of Valentine's Day similar to the way the Americans do: with roses, dates, or spite

This year it appears that tradition -- or parental pressure -- won: Many Chinese say they chose piety, or at least claimed to have done so. On a Weibo forum called "Glutinous Rice Balls versus Roses," 94 percent of the more than 5,000 netizens who voted chose rice balls. But not all made the choice willingly. In a similar poll on social networking site Renren, one member wrote that he wanted to choose to celebrate Valentine's Day. "But I've been told I'm not allowed," presumably by his parents, "so there is not much I can do except stay at home having glutinous rice balls with mom and dad."

Historians of Chinese folklore insist that the Lantern Festival is not entirely without romance. Wang Yumin, who works at an observatory in Beijing, told local newspaper Beijing Evening News that in ancient China, when young women did not usually leave the house, the occasion provided a rare chance for young lovers to see each other in public and exchange wishes -- what modern Chinese might recognize as a date. Nor do Valentine's Day celebrations necessarily represent a wholesale abandonment of Chinese culture. In the run-up to the holiday, amorous web users posted shorter, or wei ("micro"), versions of old-fashioned love letters composed in classical Chinese style. Many added digital flare by attaching selfies to the poems -- proving, at the same time, the durability and fragility of Chinese tradition.

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Best Served Cold

Chinese netizens actually bought out every other ticket to a Valentine’s Day romcom so that couples couldn’t go.

Love can conquer much -- but not, it appears, the ire of some jilted Chinese singles. According to the Shanghai Morning Post, on the evening of Feb. 13, some lovelorn Shanghaiers converged upon a movie theater in the megalopolis' popular Xintiandi shopping district to purchase every odd-numbered ticket for the Valentine's eve showing of Bejiing Love Story. (The movie is a spin-off of a popular TV series which the Hollywood Reporter declared an "awkward mish-mosh" of "humor, poignancy and melodrama.") Since movie theater tickets in China are reserved by seat number, the move effectively made it impossible for couples watching the romantic film to sit next to one another.

According to the Post, the operation was conceived and organized on a crowdsourcing website called "Dream Cube." (Crowdsourcing websites allow users to organize and fund collective projects.)  Such spiteful, albeit clever, behavior is not the norm on Valentine's Day, a holiday now widely observed among young Chinese. And no one relishes the prospect of spending Valentine's Day alone. But being single in China is particularly tough, with the country's stigmatization of "leftover women" -- slang for unmarried women over 27 -- and tens of millions of "bare branches" -- slang for excess men resulting from China's massive gender imbalance. And widespread social pressure to get married doesn't help. In response, jilted singles 20 years ago claimed Nov. 11 as their own holiday; but in 2010, e-commerce providers co-opted that date, and it now functions as China's version of Cyber Monday. For lonely Chinese with a rabble-rousing streak, crowdsourced mischief may be the start of a new tradition.

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